City of Bones by Cassandra Clare – book review

Synopsis

Clary Fray is seeing things: vampires in Brooklyn and werewolves in Manhattan. Irresistibly drawn to the Shadowhunters, a secret cadre of warriors dedicated to ridding the world of demons, Clary encounters the dark side of New York City – and the dangers of forbidden love.

Overall Plot

Clary Fray is a normal teenager living in an apartment with her mother Jocelyn. On a night out with her best friend Simon, Clary witnesses something bizarre in a nightclub and discovers the secret world of the Shadowhunters.

Review

I have been wanting to read City of Bones for ages but never got around to it, until now. I have seen the movie adaptation starring Lily Collins and really enjoyed it. I wanted to compare the book and the movie so I ordered City of Bones from my local library. (City of Bones is book 1 – there are 6 books in total).

I loved this book. I loved Jace’s wit and sarcasm and how he kind of gave off a bad boy vibe but was a total sweetheart underneath. I loved reading about Clary discovering everything she never even knew about herself, her family and that the world was filled with all sorts of demons.

Jace and Clary pretty much clicked straight away and I hate to say this but I totally ship them – cue the cuteness overload. I enjoyed learning about the other characters too such as Alec and Isabelle (siblings) the fellow shadowhunters and Simon (Clary’s best friend) who did I mention is so cute. Damn you Clare for giving me yet another crush on a fictional character.

Conclusion

I admit that the ending threw me off a bit (like wait what just happened!?) but I know it’s all going to sort itself out because there’s five other books in the series. (I may have looked up some spoilers online) but anyway, really enjoyable and funny read filled with plenty of action. I can’t wait to read City of Ashes!

Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐

My favourite quotes from City of Bones

All the stories are true

He means that the stories we believe in our hearts – stories in which we are the heroes, stories in which there are good people who rise up to defeat the evil, stories in which there is always hope – are also true.

Clary, you’re an artist like your mother. That means you see the world in ways that other people don’t. It’s your gift, to see the beauty and the horror in ordinary things. It doesn’t make you crazy – just different. There’s nothing wrong with being different.

Jace fitted the key into the lock, glancing over his shoulder at Simon. I’m not sure you’re quite sensible of the honor I’m doing you he said. You’ll be one of the few mundanes who has ever been inside the Institute. Probably the smell keeps the rest of them away.

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How I learned to cope with my anxiety and how you can too!

I’ve had anxiety since I was in 2nd year so I was first diagnosed around 4 years ago. I’ve had it a long time but over the years I’ve learned different ways to cope with my anxiety and make it easier to live with. In today’s post I’m going to share with you some ways you can also learn to live with your anxiety.

Deep breaths/going outside for a walk

Sometimes if I’m really anxious I’ll listen to some soothing music or guided meditation. I usually just take some deep breaths for a few minutes or go for a 30 min walk to relax.

Remain positive    

I’ve tried my best to give up the whole negative thinking and while I do get bad days, by embracing positive thinking and being grateful, it has drastically changed my mood and indeed my outlook on life.

Accepting that I’m not perfect

I might always have anxiety because it’s genetic but that doesn’t mean I can’t keep being myself. So what if I get anxious at the till or my hands start shaking if I’m speaking in public? I still exercise, watch my favorite 80s movies, laugh at funny vines. I’m still me.

Showing people the door

Let’s face it, lots of people suffer from anxiety. While you will meet people who are understanding of your disorder, you will also meet people who might judge or criticize you because of your mental health. In that case, show them the door.

Reading

Sometimes when I get a bit overwhelmed I just want to escape for a while so I read a book. It helps me leave reality for a little bit until I’m feeling better.

Listening to music

This one pretty much speaks for itself. If I listen to calming music or even songs about anxiety, it helps me cope with it.

Exercise

Whether I’m walking in the fresh air or gone for a late night swim, exercise instantly improves my mood and is an important factor in reducing my anxiety.

So there you have it. How I learned to cope with my anxiety and how you can too. Thanks for reading x

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4 mental health pet peeves you might relate to

Mental health issues are hard enough to deal with on their own but combined with stigma and discrimination, it can be difficult to be yourself for fear of being judged. Some people just don’t understand but are supportive and that’s okay but sadly, others maybe do/don’t understand your diagnosis but stigmatize you or define you based on your illness. Here are 4 mental health pet peeves you might relate to …

“Other people have it worse than you”

“Think of those who are less fortunate than you”. I do but I can’t save the world if I’m battling with my own mind.

frustrated ryan gosling GIF

When someone uses mental health as an adjective

“OMG that celebrity I like got engaged, I’m like so depressed.” “This homework is making me so anxious. ” Try being anxious/depressed every day.

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“You don’t look depressed”

Why, that would be my mask I wear occasionally #fakesmiletohideoverwhelmingamountofsadness

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Defining someone by their mental health issues

This one is unfair in so many ways. Don’t judge someone because of their mental illness. Period.

kate winslet ive had this in my drafts too long to remember which interview it comes from GIF

Despite the stigma, here’s one last piece of advice:

quotes be yourself GIF

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Let’s talk about phobias …

According to Wikipedia, A phobia is a type of anxiety disorder, defined by a persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation. There are various types of phobias some of which we have heard about from books, TV etc. and others, not so much. In this list I will be discussing the symptoms, causes and treatment of 10 different phobias.

Mysophobia

The most common phobia in the world is Mysophobia – A fear of germs.

Symptoms: washing hands obsessively, avoiding crowds, nausea

Causes: genetics, as a result of anxiety

Treatment: medication, psychotherapy, exposure therapy

Agoraphobia

Fear of open spaces

Symptoms: Unable to leave the house, excessive sweating, dizziness, feeling shaky

Causes: depression, other phobias (claustrophobia), have had one or more panic attacks

Treatment: antidepressants

Claustrophobia

extreme or irrational fear of confined places

Symptoms: sweating, nausea, feel like you’re having a panic attack

Causes: dysfunction of the amygdala (part of the brain that controls how we process fear), as a result of a traumatic event such as being stuck in an elevator

Treatment: desensitisation/self-exposure therapy

Acrophobia

-Fear of heights

Symptoms: dizziness, heart palpitations, sweating

Causes: thinking you might fall or be injured, as a result of a traumatic experience

Treatment: Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT)

Arachnophobia

-fear of spiders

Symptoms: overwhelming fear of spiders, intense anxiety, panic attacks

Causes: a result of evolutionary selection (we associate spiders with infections and disease)

Treatment: Counselling, CBT, medication

Coulrophobia

-Fear of clowns

Symptoms: nausea, anger, fast heartbeat

Causes: brain function, genetics,

Treatment: CBT

Nyctophobia

-fear of the dark

Symptoms: racing heart rate, chest tightness, light-headedness

Causes: fear of what the darkness masks

Treatment: desensitization, anti-anxiety medication, therapy

Cynophobia

-Fear of dogs

Symptoms: increased heart rate, nausea, shortness of breath

Causes: may have been bitten by a dog in the past,

Treatment: Psychotherapy

Apiphobia

-The fear of bees

Symptoms: breathlessness, sweating, detachment from reality

Causes: Have been stung by a bee in the past or have seen someone else get stung

Treatment: CBT, understanding facts about bees may help in overcoming the fear of them

Telephonophobia

-Fear of talking on the phone

Symptoms: Feeling terror, dry mouth, nausea

Causes: many factors such as negative experience, electromagnetic fields, or OCD

Treatment: Directly confront the fear/talk to a therapist

There are hundreds of more phobias all of which I can’t possibly list on this post – If you would like to learn more about other phobias check out this top 100 phobias list.

Thanks for reading x

Mentalhealth-athon

About Mentalhealth – athon

Mentalhealth-athon is a mental health based readathon hosted by @beaut1fulchaos_ and co-hosted by @chaptercviii and @__rachael_marie. Each participant is shown a bingo board featuring 15 mental health prompts. The goal is to read and become aware of various different mental health illnesses by reading about characters with these illnesses. If you’d like to know more about mentalhealth-athon, check out Nicole’s YouTube video which explains everything you need to know.

Here is the mentalhealth – athon bingo board:

Note: I am a HSP (highly sensitive person) which means I can’t watch or read about violent or triggering events in films or books. Due to this, I have skipped 3 prompts, group book, eating disorder rep and PTSD rep.

And these are the books I plan on reading:

All book covers are from https://www.goodreads.com/

Own voices – Under rose-tainted skies by Louise Gornall
Non-fiction – Owning it by Caroline Foran
Anxiety rep – Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell
Schizophrenia rep – Everything here is beautiful – Mira.T.Lee
OCD rep – Turtles all the way down – John Green
Intersectional rep – Darius the great is not okay by Adib Khorram
Bipolar rep – An unquiet mind – Kay Redfield Jamison
Hosts pick – Marbles by Ellen Forney
Personality disorder rep – The Mortal Instruments(Book 1) by Cassandra Clare
Phobias rep – Liar and spy by Rebecca Stead
Other – Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking by Susan Cain
Depression rep – The silver linings playbook by Matthew Quick

Other bloggers taking part in mentalhealth-athon!

Are you taking part in mentalhealth-athon? Comment below x

I hope you all liked this post and thanks for reading x

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Mental Health Awareness Month

Happy Friday! Today we’ll be talking about Mental Health Awareness Month.

Where did it all begin?

Mental Health Awareness Month was started in the United States in 1949 by the Mental Health America organization which was then known as the (National Association for Mental Health).

What is the purpose of MH Awareness Month?

It’s purpose is to raise awareness and educate the public about: mental illnesses, such as depression, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder; the realities of living with these conditions and strategies for coping with these illnesses.

The green ribbon represents mental health awareness. The hashtag #breakthestigma is commonly used across social media during mental health month.

2019 Theme

2019’s theme for MHAM is explained in a statement by MHA :“we are expanding upon last year’s theme of #4Mind4Body and taking it to the next level, as we explore the topics of animal companionship (including pets and support animals), spirituality, humor, work-life balance, and recreation and social connections as ways to boost mental health and general wellness”.

This will be Mental Health America’s 70th year celebrating Mental Health Month! Themes in the last few years included mental illness feels like, risky business and fitness #mind4body.

Why it’s important to spread awareness about mental health during MHAM

Mental health advocates are constantly bringing awareness to mental health all year round but during mental health awareness month , it is a chance for everyone to join together to try and break the stigma of mental health.

Mental Health Around the World

450 million people worldwide suffer from mental health issues. Wikipedia state that “mental health is a level of psychological well-being or an absence of mental illness – the state of someone who is functioning at a satisfactory level of emotional and behavioural adjustment”.

Different types of mental health problems include anxiety and panic attacks, depression, bipolar disorder and eating disorders.

By looking at mental health throughout the world, we can see how countries deal with mental health problems. So is there still a social stigma attached to mental health issues? Read on to learn more…

Ireland

In Ireland, 1 in 4 people suffer from MH. Depression affects around 1 in 12 of the Irish population.

Some 18.5 % of the population was recorded as having a MH disorder in 2016. Ireland has one of the highest rates of MH illness in Europe. It ranked joint 3rd out of 36 countries that were surveyed.

Out of 1000 Irish residents surveyed, 48% of Irish people admit that they should make more time to talk about their mental health.

England

1 in 4 people are affected in the UK. 67% of people are more comfortable talking about their Mental Health than 5 years ago. However, the NHS are struggling to cope with rising demand for MH care. Around 8% of the UK population are suffering from some form of depression.

In 2006, there were a total of 31 million antidepressant drug prescriptions prescribed. In 2016, there were 65 million antidepressant drug prescriptions prescribed in the UK.

In terms of stigma within England, 9 in 10 people who have had MH problems report that they have suffered stigma and discrimination. https://www.bbc.com/news/health-41125009

Italy

In 2014, 2.6 million people were suffering from depression in Italy. Depression was the most common mental illness in Italy between 2005 and 2013. Over 2.8 million people aged 15 and over suffered from chronic depression in 2015.

France

Around 3 million people in France suffer from a serious mental illness.

America

44 million American adults have a MH condition. 8.7% of youths (over 2 million) suffer from severe depression. 56.4 % received no treatment. Anxiety is the most common mental health problem in America and affects 40 million adults ages 18 +.

Latvia

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses in Latvia. Almost 90% of depressed Latvians don’t seek treatment. Only 10% seek treatment for depression. In 2018, Latvian students displayed a higher prevalence of anxiety, depressive and physical symptoms.

Denmark

Despite being named one of the happiest countries in the world, 13.2% of adults have MH issues in Denmark. 19% of women and 13% of men receive treatment for anxiety while 16% of women and only 9% of men receive treatment for depression.

Philippines

People with a mental illness in developing countries such as the Philippines are often seen as dangerous and aggressive. In 2004, there were over 4.5 million cases of depression. Latest reports show that 3.3 million people suffer from depressive disorder while 3.1 million suffer from anxiety. There are only 2 mental health workers per 100,000 population.

Australia

In 2007, anxiety disorders such as panic disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder were the most common mental health issues in Australia affecting 14% of people. Around $9 billion was spent on mental health related services in 2015-2016. 1 in 5 Australians aged 16-85 experience a mental illness in any year.

So from this post you can see that there still seems to be a stigma surrounding mental health. However, you can also see from this post that if you suffer from a mental health issue you are certainly NOT alone. People from Ireland all the way over to Australia suffer from a mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.

I hope you enjoyed this post and thanks for reading x

5 ways employers can help employees with mental health issues

Listen to any concerns/questions they may have

If an employee has any questions or just needs to talk about their mental health (e.g they have been feeling overly stressed or anxious lately), listen attentively and try to come up with a solution to the problem so that they can continue to concentrate on their work.

Regularly check in with them

Make an appointment or organize a quick meeting and let employees know about looking after their health (E.g powerpoint on how to reduce stress ).

Organize mental health events in the workplace (E.g coffee morning )

Get the whole workplace to come together for a coffee morning in aid of a mental health charity such as Pieta House or Mental Health Ireland. Employees can chat with others, drink tea/coffee and eat scones in aid of a charity of their choice. Also don’t forget to donate!

Time off

Employees should be entitled to some time off due to intense anxiety/other mental health issue. The employer can request a doctor’s certificate or otherwise and note the number of working days missed. It is imperative that employees are in good health in order to work to their full potential.

Ensure workplace is safe and friendly

Employers should make sure that no bullying is taking place in the workplace. In the event that an employer is notified that bullying may be taking place, it is their responsibility that the matter is quickly dealt with.

Mental Health Playlist

Songs for when you’re struggling with your mental health

  • X Ambassadors – Unsteady
  • Coldplay – Fix you
  • Christina Perri – The lonely
  • Nickelback – Lullaby
  • Yuna – Mermaid
  • Bebe Rexha – I’m a mess
  • Sia – Titanium
  • Coldplay – Lost
  • Goo goo dolls – Iris
  • Sia – Breathe me
  • Imagine Dragons – Demons
  • Jeremy Zucker – All the kids are depressed
  • Troye Sivan – Happy Little Pill
  • Professor Green – Lullaby
  • Skrribbz – They said I’d never make it
  • The Verve – Bittersweet Symphony

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Songs for when you’re having a bad day

I suffer from anxiety and depression but while I don’t get depressed as much as I used to (thank god🙏) I still get the odd bad day. More specifically a bad mental health day. Everyone gets a bad day once in a while.

While there are many things to do if you’re having a bad day such as going for a walk or watching your favourite movie, music helps me on a bad day.

So whether you feel like it’s not your day, your week or even your month, here’s a few songs from my playlist to help cheer you up a little bit…

  • I hope you dance – Lee Ann Womack
  • Skyscraper – Demi Lovato
  • Recovery – James Arthur
  • Head above water – Avril Lavigne
  • Breathin – Ariana Grande
  • Shed a tear – Kodaline
  • Rise – Jonas Blue
  • In my blood – Shawn Mendes
  • No tears left to cry – Ariana Grande
  • Don’t give in – Snow Patrol
  • Make your own kind of music – Paloma Faith
  • Breathe – Seeb
  • Paper crown – Alec Benjamin
  • Battlefield – Nightcore
  • I took a pill in Ibiza – Mike Posner
  • Drag me down – One Direction
  • Sun is shining – Axwell x Ingrosso
  • Demons – Imagine Dragons
  • The Climb – Miley Cyrus
  • Hall of fame – The Script
  • You’re gonna be ok – Brian and Jenn Johnson
  • Bad day – Daniel Powter

Thanks for reading x

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