Life Is An Adventure

Ugh,dating is hard. Meeting someone, arguing, breaking up, making up,breaking up again. I mean who has the time? I’ve experimented with some dating app the latest one being Tinder. I arranged to meet a guy who was interested, crushed hard and then found out he didn’t want a relationship. ( Okay then, I’m just gonna go ahead and cry. Thanks for wasting my time, jerk. )

I chatted with a few guys on snapchat. Again,arranged to meet with a guy,thought he was the best thing since a sliced pan, and it all went to shit. ” Let’s go for dinner but I want to do adult stuff afterwards and every time after that.” Like seriously dude?That’s your way of wooing a woman ?

After all the crying to my mam over what could have been, I was repeatedly told ” well back to the drawing board” to which I wanted to scream if she said that phrase again.  Dating is tough. At times, all you want to do is get out the tub of ice-cream and have a good cry while watching a romance film on this particular occasion.#heartbreak day

A lot of people keep looking for “the one”. I do believe that there is someone for everyone. Someone who understands you, is faithful and kind. Maybe we just need two steps to one day finding the one.

Step 1- Learn to love yourself first. How can you love someone else if you don’t love you first? Self love is so important. It may seem selfish but putting yourself first can actually be good for you.

Step 2- Keep looking. Don’t give up on your search. Do your own thing but get out there,socialize, keep dating and eventually you will meet the right person for you.

You can see from the title what this article is about so without further ado , this was my experience of the dating app Tinder.

My settings – Interested in men
Within 50 km

Age 18- 25

My bio: 5’3 . Looking for relationship. x Text me. Enjoy blogging,watching movies,listening to music and photography.

• Day 1 – 5 matches
  I installed the app. Swiped left,swiped right. Got 5 matches.No conversations.

 

 

• Day 2 – 15 matches
  Swiped yes – 107
  Swiped no –  640

On day two, a few guys said hey and that was it . A few conversations started.  One guy asked me to be his girlfriend after five minutes of a conversation and hasn’t been heard from since. Tinder started to become addictive.

 

Above picture – This is how I tracked the swipe rights(yes) and the swipe lefts(no). I used tally charts to count the amount. In the beginning I used four of these small sheets each and by day 6  I reduced the amount of sheets to just 1 .

 

• Day 3- 4 matches

 

• Swiped yes-33

 

• Swiped no-410

 

Day three the recommended guys were definitely not my type.  

I talked to one guy for ages before I realised he was only after one thing.

 

• Day 4-total matches 55
  Conversations-9
  Swiped yes-12
  Swiped no-28

Again,wasn’t a good day for swiping however, I was able to establish what type of guy I like(brown hair,brown eyes,very attractive,nice personality,tall)

 

 

• Day 5- total matches 59
  conversations-9
  Swiped yes-17
  Swiped no-330

I’m starting to look really picky aren’t I?

 

• Day 6- matches remained the same.
  Down to three full conversations
  Swiped yes-2
  Swiped no-75

On day 6, I switched to only doing tally chart on one piece of paper and only swiping until I ran out of space on paper.

 

 

• Day 7- 4 matches today
  59 matches in total
  Three conversations
  No swiping today

On day 7 , I didn’t bother swiping as I felt it wasn’t really needed. I had already gotten 59 matches where I only had a conversation with three men. 3/59 ! Other guys said hey and I never heard from them for the rest of the week. One jerk proceeded to behave in a horrible manner to me and was very disrespectful for the simple reason I said no to sleeping with him ( no wonder you’re single lad ) .

 

Matches chart out of 55 matches day 4

1. Brown hair-35 guys          63%
2. Brown eyes-29 guys         52%
3. Within 30 km-24 guys     43%
4. Tall-20 guys                      36%
5. Age 18-20- 19 guys         34%
6. Age20-25=16 guys          29%
7. Beard-9 guys                    16%
8. Over 50km-9 guys           16%
9. Green eyes-5 guys              9%
10. Shane,Stephen,

sean- 4 guys                           7%
11 .40km-4  guys                    7%
12. Tattoos-2 guys                  3%
13. over 25-1 guy                   1%
14. Blonde hair-1 guy             1%
15. 50km-0 guys                     0%

 

Said hey first- 7 guys

 

 

Majority of guys on Tinder

• Have beards
• Cigarette in their mouth
• High hairstyle
• Are called Shane,Sean or Stephen.
• Are not going to text you
• Are students

 

Why I swiped left

• Didn’t find them attractive
• Group photos
• Pictures with other girls
• All body pictures(abs,gym etc)
• Knew them
• Inappropriate bio
• Fake profile
• Christmas Jumpers
• Only after one thing(need I say more?)

 

My tips for the men using or thinking of going on tinder are:

• Use a nice bio – Not many women are going to swipe right if you mention you have many leather whips up for use. In your bio,keep it short and to the point but mention specifically what you are looking for (relationship,hookup etc) and mention what you bring to the table(can you cook, can you carry in the shopping,are you a good listener,are you open to watching romantic movies ?).
• Mention your height – Yes height is important .Nobody wants to show up to a date where your match is 6 ft 7  and you’re 5 ft.
• Occupation: Do you work?What do you do?Are you a student?
• Put your best picture of you on your own. It will save you the dreaded which one are you later on.
• Don’t put an ab picture as your best picture . Yes you have a nice body but will you cuddle with me ?Probably not.
• Quit adding your snapchat name. Not every girl wants to receive a dick pic.
• Add more than one picture(at least three from different angles)
• Just stop it with the group photos already(again how are we supposed to know which guy you are?)
• Read bios carefully. Before you text your match make sure you read if he or she are interested in just a hookup or a serious relationship. It will save you the awkwardness later.
• Just say hey already. No your match is not going to bite.

 

Conclusion: Tinder is a very interesting app. It has it’s good and bad moments. You may match with a genuinely nice guy or a complete jerk like I mentioned above. Tinder being defined as a hookup app isin’t entirely correct. There are men on it that are looking for a serious relationship but unfortunately there aren’t many. There are also men that will lead you on and make you think they want a relationship but they don’t. From my week on Tinder, I did not get into a relationship and I didn’t meet any of my matches in person.

I wouldn’t recommend Tinder if you are looking for a long term relationship due to the many reasons stated above. I think I’m just gonna go with Jeremy’s advice from The Mindy Project for now . x

 

 

 

I have been watching horror movies since I was about 5. My mam is a massive horror fanatic and she has introduced me to some of the best horror films that have ever been made. Below is a list of my favourite horror movies and included is a scare factor based on how scary the film was on a scale of 1- 10 (1 being not scary 10 being scary) and the overall rating of the film out of 5 stars. All synopsis are taken from https://www.imdb.com/

• Halloween(1978)

  I have to start off this list with Halloween. This is one of the best horror films of all time and must be watched every Halloween. According to IMDb “Fifteen years after murdering his sister on Halloween night 1963, Michael Myers escapes from a mental hospital and returns to the small town of Haddonfield to kill again.” Starring Jamie Lee Curtis and Donald Pleasance. This is a must watch.
  Scare factor – 10
  Rating – 5 Stars

• Psycho(1960)

  I think most people have seen Psycho directed by Alfred Hitchcock at this stage.” A Phoenix secretary embezzles $40,000 from her employer’s client, goes on the run, and checks into a remote motel run by a young man under the domination of his mother.” The young man in question is Norman Bates and the audience soon find out that all is not what it seems at Bates Motel.
  Scare factor – 10
  Rating- 5 Stars

• The Conjuring(2013)

  I think when you see “based on a true story” at the beginning of a film it immediately makes it just a tad bit more interesting. Plus any film with Vera Farmiga in it, you can bet your ass I’m gonna watch it . “Paranormal investigators Ed and Lorraine Warren work to help a family terrorized by a dark presence in their farmhouse.”
  Scare factor- 9
  Rating- 4 Stars

• Texas Chainsaw 3D(2013)

  I really love this movie. The only thing that I didn’t like was the really cringe one liners. If you’re looking for lots of scares I would give this one a skip but If you’re looking for an enjoyable slasher movie then this is really enjoyable. “A young woman travels to Texas to collect an inheritance; little does she know that an encounter with a chainsaw-wielding killer is part of the reward.”
  Scare factor – 5
  Rating- 5 Stars

• The Ring(2002)

  I’m not sure how I feel about this movie. Don’t get me wrong it’s scary half of the time but when Naomi Watts starts investigating then it gets a tad bit boring but for the fact that it has the ability to scare the shit out of you its on the list. “A journalist must investigate a mysterious videotape which seems to cause the death of anyone in a week of viewing it.”
  Scare factor- 6
  Rating- 3 Stars

• Let the right one in(2008)

  While the american version is good it can’t beat the original. It’s subtitled but the tale is just too good it has to be watched. “Oskar, an overlooked and bullied boy, finds love and revenge through Eli, a beautiful but peculiar girl.” Not only is the relationship between Eli and Oskar cute asf but this film has plenty of scares too.
  Scare factor- 5
  Rating- 4 Stars

• The Woman In Black(2012)

  While it is a remake from the 1989 version,this is one of those films that’s not just scary, it’s really really creepy. Those toys are just (shiver). Anyway, Daniel Radcliffe was excellently cast in this film and just a heads up,don’t watch this on your own. “A young solicitor travels to a remote village where he discovers the vengeful ghost of a scorned woman is terrorizing the locals.”
  Scare factor- 10
  Rating- 4 Stars

• Dead Silence(2007)

  If you are looking for a film to watch that will scare the living shit out of you then this is the film to watch. So just sit down, popcorn in lap and get ready to run out of the room as fast as you can before that creepy doll catches you.Just kidding,but seriously,maybe turn on a lamp in the corner? “A young widower returns to his hometown to search for answers to his wife’s murder, which may be linked to the ghost of a murdered ventriloquist.”
  Scare factor-10
  Rating-5 Stars

• Insidious (2010)

  This is a really good horror. The scares and the cast are brilliant. The setting is also pretty spooky. “A family looks to prevent evil spirits from trapping their comatose child in a realm called The Further.” I think it’s not so much about the scares but if it’s you’re first time watching it ,they really are unpredictable.
  Scare factor-9
  Rating- 4 Stars

• Train to Busan(2016)

  Another great horror but this one is for the zombie fanatics. This is subtitled(made in South Korea). The director really did a good job on this one and after watching I guarantee that you’ll think so too. Oh,and even though it’s a horror, you’re gonna need a box of tissues,lots of emotion in this one.
  “While a zombie virus breaks out in South Korea, passengers struggle to survive on the train from Seoul to Busan.”
  Scare factor- 7
  Rating- 5 Stars

• Don’t Breathe(2016)

  This movie is leaning a bit towards thriller than horror but it’s enjoyable all the same. A fast- paced movie guaranteed to keep you on your seat. ” Hoping to walk away with a massive fortune, a trio of thieves break into the house of a blind man who isn’t as helpless as he seems.”
  Scare factor-7
  Rating- 4 Stars

• An American Werewolf In London(1981)

  After watching the beginning, you’re most likely gonna get hooked. This movie is a bit gory but not too gory and there is also a naughty shower scene,just a heads up. “Two American college students on a walking tour of Britain are attacked by a werewolf that none of the locals will admit exists.”
  Scare factor- 5
  Rating- 5 Stars

• You’re Next(2011)

  A must watch slasher movie. Bit gory but bearable to watch.If you suffer from vertigo or photosensitive epilepsy then I wouldn’t recommend watching.
  “When the Davison family comes under attack during their wedding anniversary getaway, the gang of mysterious killers soon learns that one of the victims harbors a secret talent for fighting back.”
  Scare factor-7
  Rating-5 Stars

• Hush(2016)

  There are two main things you need to know about hush .1. The main character is deaf. 2.Spoiler Alert!!  This is the only horror I’ve seen where the killer takes off his mask very early on. Very well made horror.  “A deaf writer who retreated into the woods to live a solitary life must fight for her life in silence when a masked killer appears at her window.  

         Scare factor- 7 

         Rating – 4 Stars         

• Lights Out(2016)

  A great tip for ya-leave the lights on! “Rebecca must unlock the terror behind her little brother’s experiences that once tested her sanity, bringing her face to face with a supernatural spirit attached to their mother.”
  Scary factor- 9
  Rating- 4 Stars

• The Shallows(2016)

  I wouldn’t really class this movie as a horror more a thriller but anyway this is slow at times but overall a very good movie.”A mere 200 yards from shore, surfer Nancy is attacked by a great white shark, with her short journey to safety becoming the ultimate contest of wills.”
  Scary factor- 7
  Rating- 4 Stars

• Shutter(2008)

This movie is similiar to The Grudge but brings photography into the mix. It’s pretty damn scary.    ” A newly married couple discovers disturbing, ghostly images in photographs they develop after a tragic accident. Fearing the manifestations may be connected, they investigate and learn that some mysteries are better left unsolved.”

Scare factor- 9

Rating- 5 Stars

• Case 39(2009)

  I never thought that Renee Zellweger could take on a horror after playing the brilliant Bridget Jones but she proved me wrong.”A social worker fights to save a girl from her abusive parents, only to discover that the situation is more dangerous than she ever expected.”
  Scary factor-8
  Rating-4 Stars

• The Grudge(2004)

Last but not least I have to mention The Grudge. Not gonna lie, this film has me peeking out under the blankets at times. Definetely one of the scariest films I have ever watched so if you’re after a good scare,this ones for you. “An American nurse living and working in Tokyo is exposed to a mysterious supernatural curse, one that locks a person in a powerful rage before claiming their life and spreading to another victim.”

Scary factor- 10
Rating- 5 Stars