It’s officially Winter! Christmas is around the corner, it’s bloody freezing and depending where you are in the world, there’s a chance of heavy snow(rarely snows here in Ireland). I’m dreaming of a white Christmas, just like the… okay I’ll stop. Anyway, it’s now Winter and to mark the occasion I’ve decided to write a post on my favourite things about Winter. So without further ado…
Christmas has to be at the start of the list. While I don’t get as excited as I used to when I was small, I still really enjoy Christmas. I love spending time with my family, opening presents and eating Christmas dinner. And the Christmas movies are the best as always. Favourites are elf, the grinch and the polar express.
Yes you can still drink hot chocolate in Autumn but I just love sitting in front of the fire, watching tv and drinking a warm cup of hot chocolate(with marshmallows).
I love going for a drive and looking at other people’s Christmas lights. Christmas lights just make a place seem magical.
I love snuggling up in a cosy blanket with my warm fuzzy socks just watching telly.
This may sound a bit odd but I really like when you can see your breath in the cold air.
It can be a bit frustrating especially when you haven’t a clue what to get someone for Christmas but I really like picking out presents for people and then going home to wrap them.
I always drink bailey’s in the Winter as well as eating Toffifee sweets from Aldi which are yum btw.
Personally, I’m not a fan of the cold but I do love snow. It snowed really heavy here last year and my dad and I built a giant snowman out the back. I can’t watch The Snowman movie though coz it makes me cry.
Strolling through the Christmas markets really is quite magical. Will I buy something? Probably not. But will I continuously stare at snow globes and proceed to turn them upside down? You bet your ass I will.
Ya All I want for Christmas is great but listening to Fairytale of New York is a necessity. Maybe some Micheal Buble songs too.Or Jingle Bells. Or pretty much any Christmas song ever made.
So what are your favourite things about Winter?? Let me know below in the comments. Thank you for reading, take care X
Ah I’m getting into Christmas mode already. I can already feel Fairytale of New York playing on the radio in the next few weeks. Anyway, I hope everyone is having a good month so far.
I have decided to use November as a month to sorta turn my life around. I can’t completely change things in a month but each day I will try to improve on myself whether that be through fitness, reading, socializing or being more productive in general.
I’m not gonna lie I haven’t exactly had the best year. From breakups to heartaches to constantly crying, to being really depressed, ya it hasn’t been the most amazing year. But hey, I’m still here. Despite everything I survived another year and I’m incredibly proud of that.
I have recently been looking up self-love and self-care boards on pinterest. My main goals are to become healthier and happier within myself. My other November goals are as follows:
Exercise more(work on my lower body)
Read more books
Get up at 7 am
On Sundays, take a social media detox day
Post two blog posts every Tuesday
Try 10 minutes meditation daily
Before I go to sleep, write 5 things I’m grateful for in a journal
So those are my goals and plans for November. I’m gonna see how I get on and hopefully I can reach my goals this month.
I have only had one long term relationship, one brief relationship and the rest were just like an online flirting situation. This is a little post inspired by Ariana Grande’s new song “Thank you, next“about what each of these guys taught me.
S taught me how it’s wrong to lead people on
D was a scam artist and taught me that brainwashing is possible
De taught me how not to treat women
K taught me first love and heartbreak
Kl taught me that there can be real dickheads in the world
E taught me that some guys are just a jerk in disguise
P taught me that if some guys don’t want to go to the bother of meeting someone in person and just wanna talk online, they aren’t interested
Each of these guys taught me a lesson. They certainly weren’t right for me. While K wasin’t really a jerk (relationship just didn’t work out) majority of them were insecure in themselves, had an attitude problem or just frankly couldn’t care less about anybody. I always tend to attract jerks. They know just how to charm their way straight to your heart and then ultimately break it.
The world that we live in simply has more jerks than nice guys. Why? I really don’t know. The nice guys are always hard to find. If you do happen to have a guy that adores you, sticks by your side no matter what, is loyal and respects you, keep him. Guys like that are rare in this day in age.
The lessons I have learned from the guys listed above have made me a much wiser person. I am single for now and using this time for me and to improve on myself. While I wait to one day find the one, all I can say to all the above guys is Thank you, next.
I’ve got so much love (Love)
Got so much patience (Patience)
I’ve learned from the pain (Pain)
I turned out amazing (Turned out amazing)
I’ve loved and I’ve lost (Yeah, yeah)
But that’s not what I see (Yeah, yeah)
‘Cause look what I’ve found (Yeah, yeah)
Ain’t no need for searching
Ugh,dating is hard. Meeting someone, arguing, breaking up, making up,breaking up again. I mean who has the time? My first relationship lasted just over a year and I’m still friends with my ex because we are good friends and ended on good terms but since then I’ve experimented with Tinder. Arranged to meet a guy who was interested, crushed hard and then found out he didn’t want a relationship. ( Okay then, I’m just gonna go ahead and cry.Thanks for wasting my time,jerk. )
I chatted with a few guys on snapchat. Again,arranged to meet with a guy,thought he was the best thing since a sliced pan, and it all went to shit. ” Let’s go for dinner but I want to do adult stuff afterwards and every time after that.” Like seriously dude?That’s your way of wooing a woman ?
After all the crying to my mam over what could have been, I was repeatedly told ” well back to the drawing board” to which I wanted to scream if she said that phrase again. Dating is tough. At times, all you want to do is get out the tub of ice-cream and have a good cry while watching a romance film on this particular occasion.#heartbreak day
A lot of people keep looking for “the one”. I do believe that there is someone for everyone. Someone who understands you, is faithful and kind. Maybe we just need two steps to one day finding the one.
Step 1- Learn to love yourself first. How can you love someone else if you don’t love you first? Self love is so important. It may seem selfish but putting yourself first can actually be good for you.
Step 2- Keep looking. Don’t give up on your search. Do your own thing but get out there,socialize, keep dating and eventually you will meet the right person for you.
You can see from the title what this article is about so without further ado , this was my experience of the dating app Tinder.
My settings – Interested in men
Within 50 km
Age 18- 25
My bio: 5’3 . Looking for relationship. x Text me. Enjoy blogging,watching movies,listening to music and photography.
Day 1 – 5 matches
I installed the app. Swiped left,swiped right. Got 5 matches.No conversations.
Day 2 – 15 matches
Swiped yes – 107
Swiped no – 640
On day two, a few guys said hey and that was it . A few conversations started. One guy asked me to be his girlfriend after five minutes of a conversation and hasn’t been heard from since. Tinder started to become addictive.
Above picture – This is how I tracked the swipe rights(yes) and the swipe lefts(no). I used tally charts to count the amount. In the beginning I used four of these small sheets each and by day 6 I reduced the amount of sheets to just 1 .
Day 3- 4 matches
Day three the recommended guys were definitely not my type.
I talked to one guy for ages before I realised he was only after one thing.
Day 4-total matches 55
Again,wasn’t a good day for swiping however, I was able to establish what type of guy I like(brown hair,brown eyes,very attractive,nice personality,tall)
Day 5- total matches 59
I’m starting to look really picky aren’t I?
Day 6- matches remained the same.
Down to three full conversations
On day 6, I switched to only doing tally chart on one piece of paper and only swiping until I ran out of space on paper.
Day 7- 4 matches today
59 matches in total
No swiping today
On day 7 , I didn’t bother swiping as I felt it wasn’t really needed. I had already gotten 59 matches where I only had a conversation with three men. 3/59 ! Other guys said hey and I never heard from them for the rest of the week. One jerk proceeded to behave in a horrible manner to me and was very disrespectful for the simple reason I said no to sleeping with him ( no wonder you’re single lad ) .
Matches chart out of 55 matches day 4
1. Brown hair-35 guys 63%
2. Brown eyes-29 guys 52%
3. Within 30 km-24 guys 43%
4. Tall-20 guys 36%
5. Age 18-20- 19 guys 34%
6. Age20-25=16 guys 29%
7. Beard-9 guys 16%
8. Over 50km-9 guys 16%
9. Green eyes-5 guys 9%
sean- 4 guys 7%
11 .40km-4 guys 7%
12. Tattoos-2 guys 3%
13. over 25-1 guy 1%
14. Blonde hair-1 guy 1%
15. 50km-0 guys 0%
Said hey first- 7 guys
Majority of guys on Tinder
Cigarette in their mouth
Are called Shane,Sean or Stephen.
Are not going to text you
Why I swiped left
Didn’t find them attractive
Pictures with other girls
All body pictures(abs,gym etc)
Only after one thing(need I say more?)
My tips for the men using or thinking of going on tinder are:
Use a nice bio – Not many women are going to swipe right if you mention you have many leather whips up for use. In your bio,keep it short and to the point but mention specifically what you are looking for (relationship,hookup etc) and mention what you bring to the table(can you cook, can you carry in the shopping,are you a good listener,are you open to watching romantic movies ?).
Mention your height – Yes height is important .Nobody wants to show up to a date where your match is 6 ft 7 and you’re 5 ft.
Occupation: Do you work?What do you do?Are you a student?
Put your best picture of you on your own. It will save you the dreaded which one are you later on.
Don’t put an ab picture as your best picture . Yes you have a nice body but will you cuddle with me ?Probably not.
Quit adding your snapchat name. Not every girl wants to receive a dick pic.
Add more than one picture(at least three from different angles)
Just stop it with the group photos already(again how are we supposed to know which guy you are?)
Read bios carefully. Before you text your match make sure you read if he or she are interested in just a hookup or a serious relationship. It will save you the awkwardness later.
Just say hey already. No your match is not going to bite.
Conclusion: Tinder is a very interesting app. It has it’s good and bad moments. You may match with a genuinely nice guy or a complete jerk like I mentioned above. Tinder being defined as a hookup app isin’t entirely correct. There are men on it that are looking for a serious relationship but unfortunately there aren’t many. There are also men that will lead you on and make you think they want a relationship but they don’t. From my week on Tinder, I did not get into a relationship and I didn’t meet any of my matches in person.
I wouldn’t recommend Tinder if you are looking for a long term relationship due to the many reasons stated above. I think I’m just gonna go with Jeremy’s advice from The Mindy Project for now . x
Books transport me to another world. A world where society is different,the people are different,where every place I go I am a different character with a different personality. Sometimes I am the heroine, sometimes I’m not. Sometimes I get the (really hot bad guy that everyone wants) you know the guy right??xd . Sometimes I get the really nice guy and sometimes I don’t get any guy.
I wear an old fashioned dress or a bodycon. I look for a husband in a competitive culture or the guys are in search for a wife. I’ve been in love or I’ve never loved. I am lost or I am found. There are various possibilities with various outcomes. In books you can be whoever you want to be. You’ve lived so many lives without even realising it. Books allow you to dream and to explore the what ifs.
Books calm the mind. They give you a sense of accomplishment after you finish the book. For this reason and the many others I’ve mentioned above , I would encourage everyone to read as often as they can.
My Favourite Horror Movies
I have been watching horror movies since I was about 5. My mam is a massive horror fanatic and she has introduced to some of the best horror films that have ever been made. Below is a list of my favourite horror movies and included is a scare factor based on how scary the film was on a scale of 1- 10 (1 being not scary 10 being scary) and the overall rating of the film out of 5 stars. All synopsis are taken from IMDb.com.
I have to start off this list with Halloween. This is one of the best horror films of all time and must be watched every halloween. According to IMDb “Fifteen years after murdering his sister on Halloween night 1963, Michael Myers escapes from a mental hospital and returns to the small town of Haddonfield to kill again.” Starring Jamie Lee Curtis and Donald Pleasance. This is a must watch.
Scare factor – 10
Rating – 5 Stars
I think most people have seen Psycho directed by Alfred Hitchcock at this stage.” A Phoenix secretary embezzles $40,000 from her employer’s client, goes on the run, and checks into a remote motel run by a young man under the domination of his mother.” The young man in question is Norman Bates and the audience soon find out that all is not what it seems at Bates Motel.
Scare factor – 10
Rating- 5 Stars
I think when you see “based on a true story” at the beginning of a film it immediately makes it just a tad bit more interesting. Plus any film with Vera Farmiga in it, you can bet your ass I’m gonna watch it . “Paranormal investigators Ed and Lorraine Warren work to help a family terrorized by a dark presence in their farmhouse.”
Scare factor- 9
Rating- 4 Stars
Texas Chainsaw 3D(2013)
I really love this movie. The only thing that I didn’t like was the really cringe one liners. If your looking for lots of scares I would give this one a skip but If you’re looking for an enjoyable slasher movie then this is really enjoyable. “A young woman travels to Texas to collect an inheritance; little does she know that an encounter with a chainsaw-wielding killer is part of the reward.”
Scare factor – 5
Rating- 5 Stars
I’m not sure how I feel about this movie. Don’t get me wrong it’s scary half of the time but when Naomi Watts starts investigating then it gets a tad bit boring but for the fact that it has the ability to scare the shit out of you its on the list. “A journalist must investigate a mysterious videotape which seems to cause the death of anyone in a week of viewing it.”
Scare factor- 6
Rating- 3 Stars
Let the right one in(2008)
While the american version is good it can’t beat the original. It’s subtitled but the tale is just too good it has to be watched. “Oskar, an overlooked and bullied boy, finds love and revenge through Eli, a beautiful but peculiar girl.” Not only is the relationship between Eli and Oskar cute asf but this film has plenty of scares too.
Scare factor- 5
Rating- 4 Stars
The Woman In Black(2012)
While it is a remake from the 1989 version,this is one of those films that’s not just scary, it’s really really creepy. Those toys are just (shiver). Anyway, Daniel Radcliffe was excellently cast in this film and just a heads up,don’t watch this on your own. “A young solicitor travels to a remote village where he discovers the vengeful ghost of a scorned woman is terrorizing the locals.”
Scare factor- 10
Rating- 4 Stars
If you are looking for a film to watch that will scare the living shit out of you then this is the film to watch. So just sit down, popcorn in lap and get ready to run out of the room as fast as you can before that creepy doll catches you.Just kidding,but seriously,maybe turn on a lamp in the corner? “A young widower returns to his hometown to search for answers to his wife’s murder, which may be linked to the ghost of a murdered ventriloquist.”
This is a really good horror. The scares,the cast,the setting is brilliant. “A family looks to prevent evil spirits from trapping their comatose child in a realm called The Further.” I think it’s not so much about the scares but if it’s you’re first time watching it ,they really are unpredictable.
Rating- 4 Stars
Train to Busan(2016)
Another great horror but this one is for the zombie fanatics. This is subtitled(made in South Korea). The director really did a good job on this one and after watching I guarantee that you’ll think so too.Oh,and even though it’s a horror, you’re gonna need a box of tissues,lots of emotion in this one.
“While a zombie virus breaks out in South Korea, passengers struggle to survive on the train from Seoul to Busan.”
Scare factor- 7
Rating- 5 Stars
This movie is leaning a bit towards thriller than horror but it’s enjoyable all the same. A fast- paced movie guaranteed to keep you on your seat. ” Hoping to walk away with a massive fortune, a trio of thieves break into the house of a blind man who isn’t as helpless as he seems.”
Rating- 4 Stars
An American Werewolf In London(1981)
After watching the beginning, you’re most likely gonna get hooked. This movie is a bit gory but not too gory and there is also a naughty shower scene,just a heads up. “Two American college students on a walking tour of Britain are attacked by a werewolf that none of the locals will admit exists.”
Scare factor- 5
Rating- 5 Stars
A must watch slasher movie. Bit gory but bearable to watch.If you suffer from vertigo or photosensitive epilepsy then I wouldn’t recommend watching.
“When the Davison family comes under attack during their wedding anniversary getaway, the gang of mysterious killers soon learns that one of the victims harbors a secret talent for fighting back.”
There are two main things you need to know about hush .1. The main character is deaf. 2.Spoiler Alert!! This is the only horror I’ve seen where the killer takes off his mask very early on. Very well made horror. “A deaf writer who retreated into the woods to live a solitary life must fight for her life in silence when a masked killer appears at her window.
Scare factor- 7
Rating – 4 Stars
A great tip for ya-leave the lights on! “Rebecca must unlock the terror behind her little brother’s experiences that once tested her sanity, bringing her face to face with a supernatural spirit attached to their mother.”
Scary factor- 9
Rating- 4 Stars
I wouldn’t really class this movie as a horror more a thriller but anyway this is slow at times but overall a very good movie.”A mere 200 yards from shore, surfer Nancy is attacked by a great white shark, with her short journey to safety becoming the ultimate contest of wills.”
Scary factor- 7
Rating- 4 Stars
This movie is similiar to The Grudge but brings photography into the mix. It’s pretty damn scary. ” A newly married couple discovers disturbing, ghostly images in photographs they develop after a tragic accident. Fearing the manifestations may be connected, they investigate and learn that some mysteries are better left unsolved.”
Scare factor- 9
Rating- 5 Stars
I never thought that Renee Zellweger could take on a horror after playing the brilliant Bridget Jones but she proved me wrong.”A social worker fights to save a girl from her abusive parents, only to discover that the situation is more dangerous than she ever expected.”
Last but not least I have to mention The Grudge. Not gonna lie, this film has me peeking out under the blankets at times. Definetely one of the scariest films I have ever watched so if you’re after a good scare,this ones for you. “An American nurse living and working in Tokyo is exposed to a mysterious supernatural curse, one that locks a person in a powerful rage before claiming their life and spreading to another victim.”
Scary factor- 10
Rating- 5 Stars
So I’ve read a lot of books,particularly romance ones but one thing has stood out to me. Why does the heroine have to be stuck between two guys, then enter a relationship by seemingly choosing one of them?Now let’s be honest here,how often does this situation actually happen?(rarely).
In reality,love is about two imperfect people learning to accept one another’s flaws and loving them nonetheless. So why is the romance portrayed in books so unrealistic? Why are authors giving us the idea that love is about choosing someone over another rather than just accepting one person?
Couples are there for one another in every struggle their relationship endures. You don’t choose your partner,you don’t choose to fight with one another, you don’t choose to be jealous,you don’t choose to laugh at their jokes,you don’t choose to kiss them or hug them or love them.You don’t choose to fall in love. In all of these things,you don’t choose to do any of them, they just happen and that’s okay.
You choose your partner for one reason only,because you love them dearly and promise that you will continue to, through the good times and the bad. And that, unlike some romantic novels, is a realistic view of love and relationships.
I like to read. A lot. When I’m bored I read. On a rainy day, I read. Before I go to sleep(which I’m aware is the title of a book) , I read. Reading gives me a chance to break away from reality for a while. I like to think of it as my getaway holiday but in a book. When reading, I am a different person, I live in a different place, I’m not always human and i’m not always a heroine but I like the variety. It intrigues me.
I used to read a lot when I was younger too but I gave it up for ages. Then only about a year ago, I decided to take it up again. I don’t play any sports and I’m not a part of any clubs so I had nothing else to do with my time. I gradually got back into reading after recovering from clinical depression. I was reading lots of self-help books to cope.
Every bookworm has a goodreads account. So far I have read over 700 books in total. I also take part in the annual goodreads challenge which I find is a lot of fun to take part in. In the summer I can read twice as many books without having to stress about anything such as exams.
My favourite book genres are romance, thriller, comedy and horror. My favourite author is Agatha Christie. I don’t have a favourite book, instead I like to add my favorite books to a “favourites” shelf on my goodreads account. Any book I have rated 5 stars goes onto that shelf.
When I have my own house, I hope to have a library. I have an image in my head of a cosy room with a floor lamp, a blue recliner, a book shelf(obviously) , a rug in the centre of the room and finally a coffee table so on a cold,rainy day, I can sit on my recliner chair with a hot chocolate and engage in a novel.
This room will also be a “me” room . No disturbances,no dogs, no husband, just me having some me time because I think every once in a while everyone just needs to switch off from everyday worries and just have some me time. Whether it’s having a bath,listening to music, going for a nap or reading a book, do whatever makes you happy and for even 5 minutes,relax. Just breathe. Take in the moment. Relax.
So there you have it. My method to relax is to read an interesting novel and since I’m a bookworm, I have to go and catch up on my summer reading list.
Comment your favourite book to read in the summer in the comments x