It is true that sometimes being single can make you feel fed up and lonely and dating the wrong people make you feel like you’re better off being single than with some jackass. But here’s the thing, while being single can be frustrating for some people, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Being single means that you’re strong and wise and you won’t settle for less than you deserve.
Being single also gives you time to focus on yourself and to iron out any issues you may have going on in your life. Besides if you’re not happy by yourself you won’t be happy with another person. Whether you’re happy on your own or waiting for love to find you, here’s a playlist of songs for single people to remind you to be confident within yourself.
I haven’t had to block many people in my life. I would always have a fairly good enough reason to block someone whether by phone number or on social media. The few people who I have blocked were quite similar and I guess this is my way of explaining why you (the people I’ve blocked) were blocked and how you can hopefully learn from it.
Dear all the boys I’ve blocked before,
I blocked you for a reason. I gave you a chance, I was friendly but you were out to gain attention, you were out to annoy someone. You asked for a video call at 2 in the morning and when I declined you kept on ringing. I had only spoken to you within five minutes. You were blocked.
You said that you loved me, that you have never met a woman like me. I was gullible and wasn’t listening to my conscience. You mentioned marriage time and time again. My health gradually deteriorated. All you did was lie. All you thought of was advantage. You didn’t care. But I did so you were blocked.
You didn’t even know me. You saw some selfies I put on snapchat. I was fully clothed but you asked was I a slut. You called me a bitch then proceeded to say I was a princess. You were just plain creepy. You were all once again blocked.
You. You were different. I actually met you in person. I thought you were different but you lied to me, time and time again. First about your height then you wanted me to change what I wore, how I dressed. You said it didn’t suit me. You disrespected women, including me. You insulted others several times and you didn’t even care. I called you out on the things you did but you said I was being selfish and arrogant.
I left but you decided to call me at 4, 5 and 6 in the morning even though you knew I had college at 7. Once, I was wrecked and I answered. You said you were sorry. You said you would make it up to me but you never did. I only knew you a little over 3 weeks and already you had shown your true colours. I blocked your phone number but you called using your friend’s phone.
I blocked you on Facebook but you messaged me using a different account. You sent several paragraphs. You wanted me to unblock your number but I knew if I did you would continue to try and control me and I would never escape your grasp. So I blocked you.
All of you wanted someone who you could use or try to manipulate. But I’m not a stupid girl. I knew you weren’t genuine, I choose to overlook it but eventually I could see through your lies.
When you block someone it’s usually because you don’t want to hear from them, you don’t want to listen to their lies, you want to move on and that’s what I’m doing. Moving on. Moving on from lies, disrespect and narcissism but most importantly I’m moving on from you.
I hope you take into account what I have mentioned. You can always change for the better, you can become a better person every day. You need to see how you treat others. So now you know why u’ve been blocked. Maybe you can learn from your actions or then again… maybe not.
For years my parents have been purchasing lottery tickets on a weekly basis. Have they ever won the lottery? No.(Well apart from this time they won a very small amount). But sometimes when we sit together checking our tickets, the question pops up . What if? What if we won the lottery? I don’t exactly know what they would do but here’s what I would do if I ever won the lottery…
Pay off any bills, loans etc
I couldn’t really enjoy anything knowing no matter how much money I have, if I don’t pay the bills I’ll have no house so I’d get all that sorted first.
Give some money to my parents
My family aren’t rich. Our definition of luxury is a comfortable house and a roof over our head. I have always been thought to be thankful for what I have. I would give money to them to pay off different things or to just go on a shopping spree for themselves.
Give money to charity
I would definitely hands down have to give some money to charity. I want to give back to people in need however I can and by donating I hope I could contribute to them living a better life.
Buy things for my dog
I’d love to buy him like little coats for the winter or hi-vis jackets.
I’d put some money into savings for the future.
And finally I would treat myself to a shopping spree.
I decided to dedicate a post to my dog, Rocky. He’s a 7-year-old Jack Russell Terrier. Rocky was six months old when I got him. I was in 5th class so I was 13. He was such a small little puppy. I remember I was crying over maths homework( I’m really bad at maths) and my parents had told me they were going shopping.
They pulled up in the car and I opened the sliding door to ask my dad could he help me with my homework. My mam opened the car door and in her arms was a small little dog. I was really shocked.
Rocky had a little tour of the house. He was kind of frightened obviously because he hadn’t a clue who we were. The people who gave him to us wanted to keep Rocky but he didn’t get on with their other dog so they had to give him away.
For a while, we wanted him to get used to his surroundings. We have a big back garden so he had plenty of space to run around. We had a cat at the time who used to stay on the windowsill but they couldn’t be left in the same room. However, they protected each other and were quite friendly.(Sadly the cat died a few years later). Sometimes when my mam opens the window to let the steam out, Rocky still looks up at the windowsill and barks.
After getting used to his surroundings, my dad and I took Rocky for a walk. Except Rocky hadn’t been taken for a walk before. While he was still a puppy he constantly pulled on the lead, hurting his neck in the process. My dad got him a harness to stop putting pressure on his neck which has worked wonders.
We also got a dog flap installed and I trained him to use it myself. He learnt how to use it within a week or two. Jack Russell Terriers are really smart so he picked it up fairly quickly. He also figured out how to open the door himself.
He has really good traits but also some fairly bad ones. We were told by the people who gave Rocky to us that as a pup he was abused by the owners and was going to be used just for breeding. Rocky still growls when you put your feet too near him. He can be pretty snappy, never with me but strangers. He acts like a tough guy around bigger dogs when in fact he’s terrified of the hoover and has regularly attempted to bite the wheels off of the lawnmower.
He’s getting older but he’s still my rock, my buddie, my baby( I know but like who doesn’t tell your dog you’ll be back soon when you go out?). I know he’s a dog but he’s a part of our family. When I sat on the couch crying over complete jerks, he jumped on the chair, snuggled against me or licked my face. When I come home from college he waits in the kitchen and greets me, his tail wagging and jumps into my arms. He always finds some way to make me happy without saying a single word. That’s what I love about dogs. They can’t talk to you but they find little ways to show you they care.
For now, he sleeps by the fire, teddies gathered round him and a cozy blanket nearby. He’s my dog, my world. X
I recently ran a poll on Twitter . Out of 10 people, 50 percent of you said you suffer from S.A.D and 50 percent said you don’t. There were also two people who mentioned they used to suffer from S.A.D but don’t anymore.
According to https://www.mayoclinic.org/, S.A.D(seasonal affective disorder) is a type of depression that’s related to changes in seasons. Symptoms usually start in autumn and continue into the winter months.
While the exact cause of S.AD is unknown, it could be linked to reduced exposure of sunlight. Being out in the sun improves our mood but as there is little sunlight during the day and it gets dark earlier, it dramatically affects our mood.
Symptoms of S.A.D
Very low mood
Feelings of despair, guilt and worthlessness
Becoming less sociable
Lack of energy
These are only a few symptoms of S.A.D but it is important to talk to your doctor to get a correct diagnosis. In order to get a correct diagnosis, your doctor may ask about your mood, lifestyle and any changes in your thoughts and behaviour.
Treatments for S.A.D
Light therapy – Light therapy lamps( also known as SAD lamps) work by giving off bright light that mimics natural outdoor light.
Take vitamin D supplements – Due to less sunlight our mood can be affected. Vitamin D is essential for the development of healthy bones, muscles and teeth.
Healthy habits – Exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthier and reduce stress. Doing all of these will improve your mood dramatically especially if your mood is low.
When to see a doctor
If you feel down for days at a time
You no longer want to do the activities you normally enjoy
If your sleep patterns have changed (sleeping too little or too much)
Appetite has changed(especially eating more carbohydrates than normal)
You feel hopeless or think about suicide
Remember to tell someone about how you are feeling and ask for help if you need to. Take Care X
It’s officially Winter! Christmas is around the corner, it’s bloody freezing and depending where you are in the world, there’s a chance of heavy snow(rarely snows here in Ireland). I’m dreaming of a white Christmas, just like the… okay I’ll stop. Anyway, it’s now Winter and to mark the occasion I’ve decided to write a post on my favourite things about Winter. So without further ado…
Christmas has to be at the start of the list. While I don’t get as excited as I used to when I was small, I still really enjoy Christmas. I love spending time with my family, opening presents and eating Christmas dinner. And the Christmas movies are the best as always. Favourites are elf, the grinch and the polar express.
Yes you can still drink hot chocolate in Autumn but I just love sitting in front of the fire, watching tv and drinking a warm cup of hot chocolate(with marshmallows).
I love going for a drive and looking at other people’s Christmas lights. Christmas lights just make a place seem magical.
I love snuggling up in a cosy blanket with my warm fuzzy socks just watching telly.
This may sound a bit odd but I really like when you can see your breath in the cold air.
It can be a bit frustrating especially when you haven’t a clue what to get someone for Christmas but I really like picking out presents for people and then going home to wrap them.
I always drink bailey’s in the Winter as well as eating Toffifee sweets from Aldi which are yum btw.
Personally, I’m not a fan of the cold but I do love snow. It snowed really heavy here last year and my dad and I built a giant snowman out the back. I can’t watch The Snowman movie though coz it makes me cry.
Strolling through the Christmas markets really is quite magical. Will I buy something? Probably not. But will I continuously stare at snow globes and proceed to turn them upside down? You bet your ass I will.
Ya All I want for Christmas is great but listening to Fairytale of New York is a necessity. Maybe some Micheal Buble songs too.Or Jingle Bells. Or pretty much any Christmas song ever made.
So what are your favourite things about Winter?? Let me know below in the comments. Thank you for reading, take care X
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Answer 11 questions the blogger gives you
Give 11 random thoughts about yourself
Nominate 11 blogs and notify them
Give those blogs 11 different questions to answer
What is one of your biggest blogging goals for this month?
For this month I am trying to get more blog views. I would really like to get 1000 views by the end of the year.
Where do you see your blog 3 years from now?
I would like it to be a pretty successful blog. The main reason for this is I want to reach as many people as possible specifically those with mental health issues. I want to let them know they are not alone and that there are other people in the world who know exactly how they are feeling.
If you weren’t blogging right now, what would you be doing?
I honestly don’t know. I have always loved writing and while I was initially sceptical to start a blog I knew I wanted to write and I’m so glad I decided to set up my very own blog.
If you could tame any animal in the world to be your pet, what would it be?
A baby tiger.
Would you rather never use social media sites / apps again or never watch another movie or TV show?
Oh that’s tough. Not gonna lie I can become addicted to social media but I also like my chick flicks so… never use social media sites.
Did you ever have a weird dream? If so, what was it about?
To be honest the moment I wake up in the morning I forget my dreams. So if I ever did have a weird dream, it’s long out of my mind.
If you could meet anyone in the world from any time period, who would it be?
Audrey Hepburn. She’s just a total icon.
What is one thing you’re absolutely terrified of?
Losing the people I love.
Would you rather be 15 feet tall or 1 foot tall?
Neither. Too tall and too short. I like to be average height.
If you could spend a day as the opposite gender (or basically whatever you aren’t currently), what would you do?
I’d probably end up having an Amanda bynes “she’s the man” moment. Wouldn’t complain if the guy looked like Channing Tatum though.
What is the best book you’ve ever read?
The perks of being a wallflower by Stephen Chobosky.
11 things about me
I hate onions with a passion. If there was an onion in a meal, I wouldn’t eat it.
I have a habit of washing my hands a lot.
I love 80s music.
I’m an introvert.
I prefer summer to winter.
I love animals.
I’ve a fear of butterflies.
I’m not one bit fake. I’m myself all the time. I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not.
My body type is ectomorph which means it’s hard for me to gain weight.
I’m a bookworm.
I’ve been blogging nearly 5 months.
Are you an introvert/extrovert?
Favourite thing about Winter?
How long have you been blogging?
Name one thing you like and one thing you dislike about social media
Best advice you’ve ever received?
What’s your star sign?
Do you think you could last 24 hours without using your phone at all?
Do you prefer to read the book or watch the film based on the book?
Ah I’m getting into Christmas mode already. I can already feel Fairytale of New York playing on the radio in the next few weeks. Anyway, I hope everyone is having a good month so far.
I have decided to use November as a month to sorta turn my life around. I can’t completely change things in a month but each day I will try to improve on myself whether that be through fitness, reading, socializing or being more productive in general.
I’m not gonna lie I haven’t exactly had the best year. From breakups to heartaches to constantly crying, to being really depressed, ya it hasn’t been the most amazing year. But hey, I’m still here. Despite everything I survived another year and I’m incredibly proud of that.
I have recently been looking up self-love and self-care boards on pinterest. My main goals are to become healthier and happier within myself. My other November goals are as follows:
Exercise more(work on my lower body)
Read more books
Get up at 7 am
On Sundays, take a social media detox day
Post two blog posts every Tuesday
Try 10 minutes meditation daily
Before I go to sleep, write 5 things I’m grateful for in a journal
So those are my goals and plans for November. I’m gonna see how I get on and hopefully I can reach my goals this month.
I have only had one long term relationship, one brief relationship and the rest were just like an online flirting situation. This is a little post inspired by Ariana Grande’s new song “Thank you, next“about what each of these guys taught me.
S taught me how it’s wrong to lead people on
D was a scam artist and taught me that brainwashing is possible
De taught me how not to treat women
K taught me first love and heartbreak
Kl taught me that there can be real dickheads in the world
E taught me that some guys are just a jerk in disguise
P taught me that if some guys don’t want to go to the bother of meeting someone in person and just wanna talk online, they aren’t interested
Each of these guys taught me a lesson. They certainly weren’t right for me. While K wasin’t really a jerk (relationship just didn’t work out) majority of them were insecure in themselves, had an attitude problem or just frankly couldn’t care less about anybody. I always tend to attract jerks. They know just how to charm their way straight to your heart and then ultimately break it.
The world that we live in simply has more jerks than nice guys. Why? I really don’t know. The nice guys are always hard to find. If you do happen to have a guy that adores you, sticks by your side no matter what, is loyal and respects you, keep him. Guys like that are rare in this day in age.
The lessons I have learned from the guys listed above have made me a much wiser person. I am single for now and using this time for me and to improve on myself. While I wait to one day find the one, all I can say to all the above guys is Thank you, next.
I’ve got so much love (Love)
Got so much patience (Patience)
I’ve learned from the pain (Pain)
I turned out amazing (Turned out amazing)
I’ve loved and I’ve lost (Yeah, yeah)
But that’s not what I see (Yeah, yeah)
‘Cause look what I’ve found (Yeah, yeah)
Ain’t no need for searching
The blogger recognition award is basically about recognising the hard work that all us bloggers do from the writing of real life issues to the countless hours spent editing. The award also lets us bloggers gain an insight into how fellow bloggers started their own blogs.
Write a post showing your award
Give a brief story of how your blog started
2 pieces of advice to give new bloggers
Thank who nominated you and include a link to their blog
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How I started my blog
I have always loved writing. I wrote several articles for local newspapers. While I enjoyed writing about different topics my main focus was on mental health. Some time after this, people began complimenting me on my writing and for talking about real life issues. I wanted to help those struggling with their mental health and to let them know they are not alone.
I was working part-time and I saved up the money I got at the weekend to put it towards setting up my blog. I contacted hostpapa who were really very helpful and set up my site from there. I am really proud of my blog and will continue writing well into the future.
2 pieces of advice to give new bloggers
Some days, you’re not gonna have any inspiration to write, and that’s okay. You should write from the heart. It’s your blog. Write what you want to write about but don’t force yourself to create a blog post, inspiration will come to you.
Be a blogger because you love writing not because you want to gain 1000 followers overnight. Blogging takes time but you also have to be yourself. If people like your content, you will gradually gain more followers overtime, not overnight.
Apologies if any of you have been nominated already . Thanks for reading. Take Care X